Sleeping With Your Ex

The subject of whether or not you should sleep with your ex is a delicate one. The fantasy of sleeping with your ex is that the two of you would be intimate and it would be a passionate love making session and by the end of it you would be blissfully in love again.

The reality may be very different. You don't want to be in the position were you're being used by your ex. It's all too common for young males to sleep with their ex girlfriends "Just for the sake of it."

Obviously you want to get back with your ex and sleeping with them is part of being in a relationship so there's a fine line between sleeping with them and it turning out to be nothing and sleeping with them and getting back together.

My advice would be for you to make it hard for your ex in regards to sleeping with them. If for example they contact you out of the blue and are trying to get in your bed, avoid the advances.

In this situation it's likely that they're on a lose end or something and are trying to sleep with you simply to help themselves feel better. In these situations you would be more likely to go down the route of being a "bed buddy" than getting back together so don't do it.

On the other hand, if you and your ex have been getting closer to each other for a few weeks and they have genuine interest in you then sleeping with them could push the two of you back together. This would be the ideal situation as I was discussing higher up.

Before making the decision of whether or not to sleep with them you need to ask yourself, Do they still like me?

Anyone can sleep with anyone else but that doesn't mean there's any feelings there. If your gut instinct is telling you that your ex doesn't really like you then avoid the advances.

Simply tell them that you aren't ready to sleep with them yet but you would like to see them again. If they take this the right way and continue speaking to you, it shows that they have good intentions and sleeping with them once they've proved that they want more than just sex could turn out to be a good idea.

The bottom line here is, don't make it easy for your ex to sleep with you, and only do it if you believe they have honest intentions of taking things further.

One final point I shall make is about sleeping with your ex if they have a new partner. The best piece of advice I can give you here is to run away and forget about your ex.

You may think that sleeping with them will bring them back to you and in some rare cases it might do. But most of the time you will become your ex's bit on the side, especially if you're a woman (and he's a man).

Men are notorious for getting a thrill out of being with more than woman. The last thing you want to do after going through a break up is put yourself through the heartbreak of being your ex's bit of fun.

Whether you're a man or woman, always maintain your self respect and only sleep with your ex if you genuinely think that they want to take things further.