Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back 

It can be really frustrating for women who want to get their ex boyfriend back but it just doesn't happen. You want him to love you and for him to start treating you as he probably did when the relationship started but instead things get more hostile.

The secrets to getting a man back are actually simple, you need to try and learn from the past mistakes of the relationship and take away as much of the parts that he doesn't like as possible.

Despite what men try and have you believe they are actually very simple and their needs are much less than women who can be more complex.

A few simple steps that you can follow are:

• Pay attention to what parts of the relationship he was complaining about and why he was unhappy with it. Once you've done this you can then learn from it.

• Directly after the break up keep contact with him to a minimum. This gives you both time to reflect on the situation and to let any animosity in the relationship become less relevant.

• Look at who you were when you started the relationship and try and become that person again. It is often the case with women that they simply get used to being in a relationship and therefore don't make as much effort. An example of this would be not wanting to go out as often or never working the clothes that he likes. These may seem like simple things but men are animals and once they aren't getting what they want they can become unhappy. Then when they get what they want they're fine again.

• Using the power of the memory is a great way to help your man see the light. Think back to happy times you may of had, vacations or nights out and bring them up in conversation.

• No drunken or desperate phone calls. This is usually a certain way to drive him away further. By doing this you seem clingy and desperate which isn't attractive.

• Whenever you see him look your best. I scratched on this higher up, sometimes men can become disgruntled when the beautiful women they fell in love with stops making the effort.

• Be positive, don't let your ex boyfriend know that you're upset about the break up. Negativity and self pity are off putting qualities and will harm your quest to get your ex boyfriend back rather than aid it.

• This may not be applicable (and may be impossible) but if it is then try and win over his friends. Nobody is lauder in a mans ear than his friends and they can have a strong influence on him. Making sure that his friends are telling him to give things another shot is better then the other way round.

• Following from the point above, if you're both part of the same circle of friends make sure that you never say anything bad about him behind his back. Only ever say positive things so that if people are talking behind your back it will most likely be good things.

Those are a few simple points that you should follow in your overall plan of getting your ex boyfriend back, now let's go into a little more detail.

First of all you may need to make a few changes to yourself. I'm not saying that you need to start being someone that you're not because that wouldn't work. What I am saying is you may need to make a few changes based on the reasons for your break up.

For example, if the break up was for the classic reason of "nagging him too much" then try and cut down on the nagging.

If you broke up because you where going out all the time and spending too much time with your friends then try and cut down to just once or twice a week.

What you have to remember is that relationships are all about compromise and it will be needed from both sides if the relationship is to survive, especially if you're trying to get your ex back.

Another thing that is important is to apologize when necessary. Stubbornness has ruined many relationships and in most cases it won't help. If you've upset your boyfriend or have done something wrong, just swallow your pride and apologize for it.

Also make sure that it's a sincere and humble apology. This will impress your boyfriend and greatly improve your chances of getting him back.

One thing you should definitely avoid is a rebound relationship with the intentions of making your ex boyfriend jealous. Men can be volatile creatures and can have a knee jerk reaction if they find out you're seeing someone else, this is especially the case amongst younger males.

One site that may help you a lot is the ex recovery system by Ashley Kay which is the best relationship eBook I've read. It goes into a lot of detail and will first help you identify why your ex boyfriend left and then how you should approach him to get him back.

Another site which you might find helpful is Ex Boyfriend Guru which is designed specifically for women, although I think that the ex recovery system is more detailed, easier to follow and ultimately more helpful.